Seeing each other before your wedding

February 9, 2011

I am going to take this blog to give my two cents about something that is a pretty big dilemma to most brides.  To see him before or to not see him before? I always tell my clients that if they have a strong gut feeling to have their first look be as the bride is walking down the aisle – then they need to do it.  But as a photographer, I will tell you that choosing to see each other before the ceremony has soooooooo many wonderful rewards.

First of all, just so you know, the idea of seeing the bride for the first time as she walks down the aisle originated from arranged marriages.  And I haven’t yet been hired to photograph an arranged marriage.  🙂

Second, the bride often wants a reaction from her groom when he sees her.  Over my 6 years of photographing weddings, I’ve seen more reactions from grooms when it is a sweet, private moment between him and his bride instead of in front of tons of people.  The groom is able to talk to the bride and tell her all the sweet things that she is hoping to hear.  Now let me take this moment to say that as a bride I did not want to see my hubby until I walked down the aisle – so I get it.  But let me tell you, I did not get the reaction that I thought or hoped I was going to get. When I reached the end of the aisle – I actually asked him, “Do I look ok?”  And all he was able to really say was “yes” because our pastor began talking.

Third, there is so much more time with less stress to get all the photos done!  If you wait to see each other, you will have family photos, bridal party photos and the most important photos – the ones of you and your spouse – all squeezed in to a short amount of time before the reception starts.  More than likely, your guests will be waiting for a while at the reception while you finish photos.  This brings me to another point.  I know of some brides who have  scheduled the reception to start a few hours after the ceremony is done.  Why?  Because they didn’t want to see each other before hand but they also knew that it takes time to get great photos (which they wanted) and they didn’t want to make their guests wait.  I think this is a great compromise.

So why did I choose this blog to talk about this dilemma?  Because this gorgeous bride and handsome groom decided to have a private moment before the wedding.  We had such a fun, wonderful, low stress time of photos and were able to laugh and enjoy a good chunk of time – just the three of us.  🙂


2 Responses to “Seeing each other before your wedding”

  1. stacy Says:

    They are adorable!!

  2. Ariel Says:

    What a great post! First of all, they are the.CUTEST.Thing! I’m sooo excited for our family shoot this summer. Your photos are so full of life! Second, my hubs and I took a moment before and I walked down the aisle to meet him alone. I wouldn’t trade that moment. We were able to tear up and chat for a minute without stress.

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